about me
i am a big hearted multi-spirited sometimes gender somtimes queer social rebel and artist from berlin, germany living in oakland, ca. i am a visual artist/interaction designer/consultant/geek, but babycakes.de is not really about that.
about babycakes
babycakes – an old nickname mixed with a good portion of irony… it originated (d’uh?) from armistead maupin’s “tales of the city”. my ex used to call me “keks” (german for “cookie”) and although it does not really translate to “cake” or “cakes” i was stuck with babycakes after a video-marathon of the above mentioned series with drop-dead gorgeous olympia dukakis!
a few years later i miraculously actually landed in “the city” and have quite some tales to tell. so although i am slowly growing out of the baby part i am happy to continue on the legacy of amazing tales of glorious queeries and other wonders by the bay! besides, i just launched the project babycakes 2.0 which actually deals a lot with babies: we are about to have a baby in early 2001 and life has been a rollercoaster ever since we started trying. most of the rollercoaster stuff was extremely personal, but i have come to a point where i feel like there’s stuff the world needs to know: we as queer parents do not have all the millions of forefathers and foremothers to role model for us.
we can and will look at each other for support. we will create community and bonding more and more. we can look out for each other and see how we are doing. and still…. all the community and all the resources don’t always give me the guidance that i need (although i bow down in front of all you wonderful folx who’ve been taking on this adventures before me, gratitude, gratitude, gratitude). i often feel alone trying to figure out things and i felt like a blog might be a good way to get it out and share if with other parents-to-be.
disclaimer
babycakes.de is about experiences, expression, exposition, folly, felines, fantasy, healing, holiness, (w)holeness, art, poetry, literature and lots of other thoughts. babycakes.de reflects my own personal view of life and i encourage everybody to email me or comment on my entries if you agree/disagree with my views and even more so if you feel offended. i am carrying a lot of fear, frustration and isolation in my confused world and i am trying to use this as a safe channel to transform fear, frustration and isolation into power, hope and community. if you have to say something: there’s always a back channel for communication and dialogue!